O.k. so you have spent all this money on your dress (which looks amazing). You’ve booked a gorgeous space for the reception, you have kick- a*! shoes, he looks fabulous in his tux and you ask your girlfriend to do your hair and makeup! WHAT!!!! ladies this is a major no-no…. unless your girlfriend is a licensed cosmetologist with a chair at a reputable salon or like my girlfriend Nicole… licensed but works from home, then what are you thinking!!!!!!!!!! You just spent literally thousands of dollars on this one day and you won’t kick in the extra loot to ensure that you look amazing? crazy!
Your best girl that does your hair before you head out for a Friday night is not the person who should be handling your locks before your big day. Find a professional who specializes in nothing but hair and make a minimum of 2 appointments. The first is a run through of your big day (make sure to take pictures) and the 2nd is for the morning of your event. Don’t stop there, your regular make-up is not going to cut it for your wedding neither is your best friends stab at a “smoky eye”. Go and see a professional make-up artist to ensure you look as amazing as possible, throw down the extra money and get airbrushed so that way you look as good at 1am as you did at 10am. Your hair and make-up for your wedding day is nothing to mess with, you have to look at these pictures for the rest of your life do you really want to look back and regret you didn’t trust it to a pro? You have already scrimped and saved to make everything else amazing do yourself a favor and set aside a few extra bucks to make sure you look and feel smokin on your wedding day.
fresh off my wonderful vacation with the hubby and la familial and ready to get back to work! I had nothing but downtime and relaxation for the past 2 weeks and it gave me plenty of time to think. One of the family topics that was covered was what to do about our upcoming anniversary. As you my readers know we have decided to throw out the idea of a big bash and instead do a low-key bbq and housewarming party ( low-key meaning 75+ guests!!!!). I broke the news to my fam and it was agreed that we were making the best decision for us but that got me thinking bout weddings in general and the question going round my brain is how much is too much? When does a wedding stop becoming a celebration of your new marriage and life together and start becoming a way to one up and impress people you haven’t seen in years. I sit in my office day in and day out and am inundated with nothing but wedding paraphanilia and I gotta tell you sometimes even I think it’s over the top and ridiculous. In 2007 the average cost of a wedding reception was 28,000$ twice the amount spent in 1990 and currently the wedding industry nets 161 billion dollars annually!! 28,000$ for an event that lasts 1 day just a mere 14 hours, to me that’s crazy and this is what I do for a living. People ask me all the time ” don’t you watch the wedding shows on t.v.”? Honestly, NO! I can’t stomach it. I have a hard time watching a girl spend 7,000$ on a dress she will wear for less than 8 hours or 45,000$ on a reception site. 200$ a person favors.. really! people are just going to throw it out! Don’t get me wrong I am not against spending some money to have a great wedding with good food and good drinks with the people you care about, but when you start to get into the 10’s of thousands maybe you should reconsider how better that money could be used like on your home or a tuition fund for you children. No marriage should begin with a massive amount of debt looming over your head. Remember the most important part of that day is the seriousness of the commitment you are making to one another, not the chaircover color being the exact same shade as the bridesmaids dresses.
Keep it in perspective!
Ah a new year! How I love the months of January thru March… Such a busy time of year for me! Typically our phone starts ringing non-stop on the 2nd of January and keeps on until the end of March. That means that we aren’t super busy in the ballrooms but crazy hectic in our office. I love being really busy at work nothing is worse than sitting at work twiddling your thumbs and wondering when 5 o’ clock is going to come.
I’m not sure if all halls are like us but typically we are busy because of the different booking specials we offer which brings around to my blog topic for today!
Don’t wait to book if you haven;t decided about a hall for your event for this year take advantage of the deals that you can get by booking January thur March. Most places typically want to encourage same year bookings so if you are planning something special for this year now is a good time to do the research and consider where you will be holding your event. Take advantage of the freebies that you can get when you put a deposit down during winter months. Think of this time of year like a fire sale for halls and venues and take advantage of the specials that they have to offer.
Good luck in your shopping and have fun planning whatever might be on your calendar for 2013!
He Asked!!!… you said YES!!! Now what? Flowers, cakes, dresses, venues? Absolutely not… in 13 years of planning I have seen the same mistake time and time again…. do not book anything or make any plans until you and your fiance have the talk! What talk you ask? The money talk where you decide who pays for what. I have researched till my eyes bleed and I keep coming across the same answers, if one set of parents doesn’t offer then you shouldn’t bring it up and if they do give you money at the last minute then great!!!! This is the worst advice I have ever heard, first of all marriage is not about a wedding or a party it’s about the joining of 2 families to make a larger unit. This can not be accomplished when you begin that relationship with resentment because one set of parents helped and the other didn’t. When Shawn and I got married the very first conversation we had after the news of our engagement was who’s gonna help and what can we expect…. uncomfortable? Yeah!! Necessary? Absolutely!!! I had spent a lot of time with my in-laws but money wasn’t something we had ever talked about. Before we even began looking at spaces we had a clear picture of the level of involvement from all three (yeah three!!!) sets of our parents. At no point in our planning was I surprised or upset about who was contributing for what and how much… both my parents and his made a commitment ahead of time and stuck with it. I’m not saying that was the easiest 45 minutes of my life but in retrospect I’m glad I had that conversation, it gave us a clear picture of what we could expect. The day of our wedding wasn’t filled with resentment from either side but instead respect and appreciation, my mom and his mom agreed upon how to split their portions of the bill weeks in advance and so that day they could relax and enjoy each others company instead of worrying or being angry about getting stuck with a one-side bill. How do I know this works…
because now my Mom and my Mother in-law are great friends and family BBQ’s include both sides!!!!! Remember a few moments of being uncomfortable can ease tension and stress in the long run…. my advice? Get it over as soon as possible and move on to the fun stuff!!