Okay so this post is not necessarily wedding related but I thought it was worth a few minutes of my time. For the last 10 years every February I travel with my family and friends to somewhere warm and tropical to relieve the mid-winter blues, also my birthday happens to fall around this time of year so it’s an easy excuse to celebrate that as well. This year for the first time in a decade I will not be traveling at all this winter and it’s made me sit back and really reflect on why I go. When it first started it was just an excuse to escape the snow and run off to Florida for some fun in the sun but as the years past and the trips grew larger and longer and our destination spots varied I realized that this was an important time of year to bond and catch up with my family. Granted we work together and so we see each other daily but this is was our time to put aside the stress and pressure of running a family business and to be mother, sister, wife and daughter as opposed to boss and employees. These trips have given me the opportunity to reconnect with the ones I love the most in a stress free environment where we can be ourselves. It allows us to relax and remember why we decided to run a family business in the first place and how much we truly enjoy each others company. This year my husband and I were not able to make it because we purchased our first home and closed in December, with the amount required to put down on our house and the holidays being just around the corner we had to pass on our yearly vacation. My sister took her trip in January, mom left last week and Kelly flew out today, sitting in my quiet office this morning watching the blizzard outside my window I realized it’s not the warm weather and beautiful beaches I miss but the rare opportunity to spend uninterrupted time with my favorite people enjoying their company… have a great time on your trips family!!!! I love and miss you!!!!!
I have been the worst at keeping up with my blog! I just realized I haven’t posted since June, which is a good thing because we have been so busy but a bad thing because I have so much to share it will be weeks before I get thru it all!!
For today I want to pass on this awesome piece of advice I saw on the net….
It’s titled the most Important Photos to take at your wedding and after reading it I couldn’t agree more.
Year one!!!! Done!!!! Technically I don’t think we are Newlyweds anymore but it sure feels like we are still in that phase….
My advice after the first year of marriage…teamwork! Put your partner first and approach everything as a team. My husband and I both have insanely busy schedules and finding time for each other has always been a challenge but we have doubled our efforts over the last year to make sure that we get at least one night a week for the two of us. It’s not always easy but it’s definitely worth it, we are on to year 2 and I couldn’t be more thrilled.
Good luck to everyone struggling to find the time,
My husband and I agree on most stuff, we have similar hobbies and passions and views on the world however when it comes to decorating our home we couldn’t be more different. How can a man who agrees with me on what sports teams to cheer for and which holidays are most important not share my vision for how our home should look. He likes leather and glass and shiny steel… I like light woods and rich colors and neutral tones. We literally could not be more different in how we decorate. His idea of how our living room should look includes Sports memorabilia and his fantasy football trophy (think man-cave) my idea of how our living room should look is family photos, comfy couches and lots of pillows and throw blankets! We are currently in the process of renovating the main living space in our house (dining room, living room, hallways). You would think the most challenging part would be living with the dust and debris that comes with construction but I can honestly say settling on paint and flooring choices has been more difficult. He wanted shiny cherry wood floors, I wanted super light natural one’s. He likes white for the walls and taupe is more my style. Countless paint samples later he finally looks at me and says honestly I could care less do whatever you want you’re the one who cleans it! Grrrr! We could have saved 2 precious weeks of our time if I had that information earlier! The crazy thing was he wasn’t even snotty or sarcastic he really does think that since I spend the most time there I should get to choose, this is awesome by the way but now I am thinking we’re you just screwin with me… is that one of those “how to annoy your wife things”? I think he purposefully dragged it out just because he can.
So finally after all the nonsense my new gorgeous light natural wood floors go in on Monday!!!! And they will match my taupe walls perfectly. I am like a kid at Christmas I can’t wait, and as I am spending last night removing the last of the furniture and touching up the paint he turns to me with a smile and says…. I changed my mind! I like cherry better!
Chuckling at the thought of kicking his ass,
O.k. so you have spent all this money on your dress (which looks amazing). You’ve booked a gorgeous space for the reception, you have kick- a*! shoes, he looks fabulous in his tux and you ask your girlfriend to do your hair and makeup! WHAT!!!! ladies this is a major no-no…. unless your girlfriend is a licensed cosmetologist with a chair at a reputable salon or like my girlfriend Nicole… licensed but works from home, then what are you thinking!!!!!!!!!! You just spent literally thousands of dollars on this one day and you won’t kick in the extra loot to ensure that you look amazing? crazy!
Your best girl that does your hair before you head out for a Friday night is not the person who should be handling your locks before your big day. Find a professional who specializes in nothing but hair and make a minimum of 2 appointments. The first is a run through of your big day (make sure to take pictures) and the 2nd is for the morning of your event. Don’t stop there, your regular make-up is not going to cut it for your wedding neither is your best friends stab at a “smoky eye”. Go and see a professional make-up artist to ensure you look as amazing as possible, throw down the extra money and get airbrushed so that way you look as good at 1am as you did at 10am. Your hair and make-up for your wedding day is nothing to mess with, you have to look at these pictures for the rest of your life do you really want to look back and regret you didn’t trust it to a pro? You have already scrimped and saved to make everything else amazing do yourself a favor and set aside a few extra bucks to make sure you look and feel smokin on your wedding day.
I know I am still fairly new to this blogging thing and I am supposed to be a wedding pro but I have come across a question of my own that i just can’t seem to answer. My husband Shawn and I chose to do a small, quick wedding back in June, we got engaged in the end of March. There were a lot of reasons to why we didn’t want to wait more than a few months to get married and to why we wanted to do a small wedding ( think 20 people small). I will never regret that decision and that day was the best day of my life but we did give up certain things and missed out on a few moments. That being said it’s been expected that we have a reception on our 1 year anniversary so that we can celebrate with the guests that didn’t attend the ceremony and also it allows us the opportunity to get back special moments ( first dance, toasts ect..) that we missed the first time around. When we first discussed doing a small wedding we always intended to hold a large reception a year later, that was the plan! However after over half a year of marriage it is starting to seem unimportant. Things like buying a house and having a baby are more pressing issues and I am having a hard time justifying the money for a reception when I am a year deep in my marriage. The problem is all of our friends and family that weren’t invited to the ceremony already feel slighted and I don’t want to cause anymore hurt feelings then I already have. What to do in a situation like this?
I find myself at a loss and considering I almost always have the answer when it comes to this type of stuff I feel like I am traveling foreign waters.
Comments and suggestions are most appreciated especially if anyone who follows has been in a similiar situation, and to my family and friends please don’t hesitate to be honest.
Saturday evening here at Farina’s we had the pleasure of hosting a fundraiser to raise money to help find a cure for breast cancer. Mike Hull used to be an employee here at Farina’s years ago (I am pretty sure he predates me!!) Last year he lost his mother to breast cancer and he has been fundraising for a cure ever since. We had the privilege of helping him host the Ha Ha’s for Ta Ta’s Fighting Cancer with Comedy night here on Saturday, when he first contacted us to see if we would be interested in helping it was a no-brainer. My cousin had just had a recent battle with breast cancer and I knew first hand how hard a fight like that could be. The event went great, the comedians were hilarious and I believe they raised quite a bit of money! To get involved check out http://makingstrides.acsevents.org/site/PageServer?pagename=MSABC_FY13_FindAnEvent and find out how you can make a difference in fighting breast cancer.
Me, Kelly and my cousin Amy. Amy’s been Cancer free for almost 4 months!!!!!!!