Dress woes


So I had this conversation about bridesmaid dresses the other day with 2 lovely ladies that were in my office to set-up a bridal shower for their best friend who was getting married.
They love her and were so happy when they were asked to stand up and celebrate such a big day with her, they have no problem with the responsibilities and financially they are ready and willing to pay for the costs that come with being a part of a wedding party however….. THEY HATE THE DRESSES!!!! and I couldn’t agree more!

Why oh why is the tradition of one dress for 5 different girls still popular? Who cares what color the bride chooses it’s her day but for heaven’s sake no one dress is ever going to look good on all your girls, and before you pat yourself on the back and say well I gave them 3 options halter, strapless and one shouldered are not options if they all have to be floor length and you have 2 girls who are 5’9, 2 who are 5’6 and one who is 5’1. Floorlength makes sense if they are all medium height or taller and they are wearing high heels, strapless makes sense for all if they are all smaller in the bust, but if your girls come in multiple shapes and sizes then wake up! Get a clue these pictures hang on your wall, do you really want to look at pictures of 5 uncomfortable girls in ill-fitting dresses for the next 50 years all because you had to have symmetry!

I get matching colors.. it makes sense but as far as the dress itself, let your girls pick dresses in styles and lengths and shapes that best flatter each of their individual figures. Pick the fabrics, pick the color and of course the bride should have the final ok! but let them choose what they are going to be most comfortable in and you will get 5 beautiful girls who are confident, gorgeous and happy in what they are wearing.
I found a great online mag who agrees with my postion check them out for more info!



P.S. Did I mention I love the pic above so much!!!! What a great idea and they all look good in the individual dresses!

If you dare!!!!

Who says a wedding dress has to be white? Below are my top 5 picks for black wedding dresses! I thought this would be fitting since today is Halloween!!!!  I have done a Halloween themed wedding and I wholeheartedly believe that it can be accomplished without being cheesy, gutsy yes! cheesy? not necessarily. Check out the options below and keep an open mind, remember with an all black dress it can definitely be worn again!

Happy Halloween!!!!!


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Buying the Dress Part 2

So here I am 2 weeks from my wedding, no dress and in the throes of a complete meltdown. Where was I going to find a dress that didn’t require weeks of alterations and more importantly how much was this going to cost me?  Off to David’s Bridal we went, they were the only place you could buy off the rack and take it with you that night. Walking into their lobby I finally started to get emotional about what exactly we were there to do, I was buying my wedding dress!! MY WEDDING DRESS!!!!  where did I even begin? Hours of parading back and forth in front of my dad, mom and sister (via I-phone) finally led me to what I had been looking for all along, how did I know this was my dress? I couldn’t stop crying while I was in it!  Dad had tears in his eyes, mom was all choked up and my sister kept chanting “That’s the one, That’s the one”. The dress made me feel gorgeous it fit well, hid the parts I hate and enhanced the parts I love but most of all I knew that it was gonna stop Shawn dead in his tracks. Thank God my mom was waiting for this moment so her and Dad were prepared when I looked in horror at the price, quick stop at the Universal Bank of Amazing Parents and the dress was mine! The best part of the story is the dress fit perfect so all it needed was to be hemmed up for my shoes (I wore flats because I am a baby!). I got lucky, really, really lucky this story could have ended so much worse but didn’t. The moral here? be honest from the beginning and get started early and you won’t be having a mental breakdown on your mother 2 weeks before your wedding because your dress is hideous and the idea of wearing it in public makes you feel pukey!

Good luck and happy shopping!


Tuesdays Tips.

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What do you do with a dress you are never gonna wear again but can’t bear to part with? Here’s a thought, Have it made into a quilt!  What better reminder of your commitment to one another then to see it hanging on your wall or better yet sleep underneath it every night. Turning your wedding dress into a quilt is a great way to repurpose one of your most cherished items and it creates a great family heirloom that can be passed down to children.

Don’t be afraid to chop it up!!!!!!!


Buying the Dress Part 1

Buying my wedding dress was a fiasco, I am sure that not only did I make my mom nuts but also my sisters and my best friend though I went off the deep end. Let me backtrack, when Shawn and I got engaged back in March we decided that we didn’t want to wait to get married. We had been together for almost 5 years and as he s eloquently put it he didn’t need a big party he just needed me to have his last name (hallmark moment!). The general consensus was that because of what I do for a living my own wedding would be some huge over the top party, but that couldnt;t be further from the truth. I never really wanted a big wedding I had always envisioned us alone on a beach somewhere with a judge and a few handfuls of friends and family. I was so tempted to do a destination wedding but I didn’t want to put that kind of financial burden on the people I loved especially because we would not be giving them adequate time to plan and prepare. I knew I wanted a wedding this year so I began looking at open dates at our hall as far as I could tell I had 2 options either June 8th or Dec 22nd. I needed to plan around the hall’s schedule because obviously mom and I would be gone also Kelly would be attending the wedding as well and that left no one to look after Farina’s. I wanted December 22nd but was overruled because it was to close to christmas, so we settled on June 8th.  because we were doing a very low-key intimate party (the guest list was 21 people including us) I didn’t think much a bout a dress.I knew we were planning on hosting a large party on our 1 year anniversary and was going to wait to purchase “the dress” so I went online… cue the scary music. From the start I downplayed the importance of my wedding I was so focused on the being married part that I forgot about the fun included in the getting married part. My mom knew from the beginning that I wasn’t making choices based on what I wanted but based on being practical but she wisely stayed silent. I decided no cakes, no centerpieces, no linens and no dress. I just didn’t want to burden anyone with the financial responsibility especially since I was trying to get this all done in 3 months, anyway fast forward to 3 weeks before the day. My dress had arrived about a month prior but I didn’t try it on, I was losing too much weight to fast and I wanted to wait till just before it went in for alterations to see how it would look… HUGE MISTAKE! I tried it on in front of my mom and best friend and instantly hated it. I don’t mean dislike I mean hate as in get that ugly thing away from me, what was I thinking,  there’s no way in God’s green earth I m wearing that hated it but I forged on. I plastered on a smile and try to look for things that I liked, I truly believed I had my mom and Kelly convinced that I loved it. That night I went to bed miserable, I hated that dress and now I felt stuck, the next morning I admitted defeat, at 8am I called my mom and in hysterical tears told the truth. I hated the dress! I did want centerpieces! I needed to have chair covers and I couldn’t live without a wedding cake! I was sobbing like a child in the middle of a full-blown meltdown and she starts laughing and says Finally!!!!  I have been waiting for you to get emotional about this. She hated the dress, Kelly hated the dress, my dad hated the dress and everyone agreed Shawn would really hate the dress.

Time to Shop!